for a kid from a one-night stand?!? My boyfriend and I have been together 4 years. We have a stable relationship with no arguing - theres no jealousy or anything like that. He possibly has a daughter of 8. She is lovely and we have seen her on and off during the past 4 years.
She is the product of a one-night stand with my partner or someone else - the mother is 26 +has 6 children by different men. She prevents the men tied to her by children from having partners by stopping visitation+is annoyed it hasn't worked in our case as she wants to split us up. A DNA test was refused by the mother, who didn't even tell my partner about the kid until the kid was 3 years old. My partner is consumed with guilt about his fluctulating presence. He is scared of a DNA test incase it confirms hes a bad dad. He is desperate for the kid not to be his. We are trying for a baby + I want this sorted way before then! How can I encourage him to go for the test? w/o the mum?! He isn't even on the birth certificate! Talking isn't helping :-(